Your Past: Re-Write or Make Peace?

Re-Write or Make Peace?

I am amazed at how much effort and energy gets used these days by people who are hell-bent on re-writing their past.

Don’t get me wrong…I understand the attraction for sure.  But in my coaching work, as well as in my own life, trying to re-write life always comes back around with issues.  I had a business that went up in flames (to the tune of several commas and zeros) that became the final straw toward a divorce that I had known was coming for several years.

I know it is tempting to just try to go somewhere and just create a new you.

But I can tell you first hand, trying to re-write does not work—no matter how hard you try or how much money you through at it.

My experience and that of many coaching clients have proven, there is no such thing as a re-write.  Your best hope and your best path to healing and wholeness is to make peace with your past.

In fact, I suggest that you embrace it and make it a core key of your story.  Why?

Simple.  It is a significant part of your story. 

I know numerous multi-millionaires.  I do not know one that has not been bankrupt at least once, or moments away from one and came back to financial life.

I know tons of individuals who have tanked their lives—as I did—and have come out on the other side happier, healthier, and infinitely more comfortable in their own skin.  That is certainly true in my life.

The common denominator?

All of them gave up trying to re-write their past and instead have chosen to make peace with their past.

Every. Single. One.

So what does that mean and how can you and I do that?  Here goes:

  1. First, we have to get brutally honest with ourselves. Not just what we think happened or chose to remember what happened as “our version” of the truth—the actual facts. Truthfully, this is the hardest part.  Tough to do, but critical.
  2. Then, we have to open our heart and mind to ask, “What was that for and what am I supposed to learn from having come through ___(your past detail)___?”
  3. Make no further accusations toward anyone or anything. Let it go.
  4. Next, realize that every experience we have—good, bad, indifferent—happens for a reason.
  5. And finally, once you discover what it is you were supposed to learn, take inside your heart and life and invest that truth and wisdom into someone else with whom you expect NOTHING in return.

If you will do these things—peace, genuine peace and self-forgiveness—will come your way in significant volumes.  I can promise you this. 

I have been there—and will never go back.  Don’t re-write….Make Peace.

0 replies

Leave a Reply

Want to join the discussion?
Feel free to contribute!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *