So many entrepreneurs and leaders give away their greatness by continuously comparing themselves to other people they “look up” to.
Honestly, I am not sure if they look up to the guru or just jealous of what they have.
Either way, the secret to finding a dynamic life is to build one through strong and steady effort.
Sure, there will always be someone who has a bigger business, larger audience, or fatter checking account than you do. But, do they have the centered peace and quality of life to go with it?
For me, I like a balance as my goal that is half financial goals, half peaceful confidence in my work, and half epic relationships.
Yes – I realize that is more than two halves. How else do you have an overflowing life?!
Still, over the years I have learned to quit comparing myself to others and simply choose the path I believe in, and then focus on executing it better than anyone else can.
There you go. How my I Can beats another person’s IQ.
Now you and I may not ever get the chance to be at the early stages of a Facebook-styled company. But maybe that is not the opportunity we should be looking for.
But we SHOULD be looking every day for ours.
So what does your rocket ship look like exactly?
Well, here at Mindset Engine, my crystal ball is not quite that powerful, but I can tell you what made my aware and looking for the rocket ship that had my name on it. Here goes…
First, look for something that energizes you in a way that you are excited and motivated to do the work every day.
Second, be part of something that allows you to share you greatest talent or your biggest life experience to someone that needs it.
Third, look for what you would do for free if no one paid you.
Finally, fourth, seek out something that impacts and transforms the life of those you serve. Where a product, course, training, experience, whatever—make it memorable and real.
You will love life and your clients and customers will love you and pay you well, too.
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The power of the truth between friends is something truly amazing. It is nothing short of magical when one individual is free to openly invest in another with the truth versus empty words of a lie.
Even though we may not want to hear it at the time, the truth, told with respect, will be appreciated for weeks, months, and years to come.
So why would we ever lie?
Honestly, a lie says so much more about us and how we value (or de-value) the relationship of which we are being asked to weigh-in.
When we offer less than our truth, we are saying to the receiving individual that our fears of conflict and our apprehensions are more important to us than your well-being.
I do not know about you, but I want the truth no matter what.
So the next time someone blesses you with the truth—especially if you do not want to hear it at first—pause and thank them. They just showed you how much you are worth to them.
For most, real wealth is not something that is realized until somewhat later in life.
No so much because of the time required to earn it. Rather, gaining wealth takes time because it is not recognized until after some experience has passed over you.
That is not to say that wealth is not for the young. It completely is! No, the challenge is that for most of us—including this writer—we are too busy chasing other things to see the absolute wealth that is just before us.
If only we could see that our mindset and our approach to everything determines so much about how things turn out.
In my life, as well as that of hundreds of business leader friends, it has been proven over and over again.
Our mindset will work for us, but if left untrained, it will work against us for certain.
You would not believe the power of a mind that is open and focused upward.
For years, researchers and scientists alike have proven that people with an optimistic view of possibility see far more opportunities than of those who are pessimistic and limited in their thought.
Although accomplishment requires far more than simple woo-woo thinking, having a positive mind that believes in possibilities is an enormous advantage in today’s world.
People who believe in possibility are not Pollyanna in their thinking. Rather, when you believe in possibility, your subconscious is actually looking for it all of the time.
As a result, you find possibilities that otherwise would have gone unnoticed.
Conversely, those who live with a limited view often feel like nothing ever goes their way and that the world is working against them. They often find it that way—solely because of their viewpoint rather than the actual situation.
There is perhaps no greater feeling than the sense of accomplishment. And especially so when the win comes on the heels of facing adversity.
Coming through the fire and proven worthy in victory is an incredible confidence builder and reminder that you can carry for a lifetime.
I remember clearly what it was like when looking back over 12 months after the darkest period of my life.
You see, I had gone through a personal bankruptcy and a divorce within a six-month period. I was at the darkest point I had ever been in my life. But in the twelve months that followed, I managed to re-build my business to a multiple six-figures.
Sure, the money and achievement felt great.
But more important, the feeling and confidence I gained in knowing that I was capable of re-building has been truly life changing.
Yes, I am very happy with where life is. But I am even more happy with the self-awareness of who I am and what I can do.
Power in triumph—remember your wins. (Especially the tough ones.)
It is a common theme here at Mindset Engine because it is universal to us all. All of us—no matter life station, wealth, or experience—learn from pain more than from abundance.
Perhaps we are learning equally, but when in times of peril, we are more aware of the magnitude of the lesson…I’m not sure.
However, I do know that from my life, as well as that of every other successful entrepreneur I know, suffering produces insights that create success.
So, in some ways, you can deduce that suffering is necessary FOR success. What say you?
Otherwise, we would go through life in vanilla only and have a hum drum, non-eventful experience.
As for me, I do not want that.
I want adventure and surprise. I want freedom and exploration to discover new ways to succeed and how to show up as my best me.
Without the journey, I would not exist—at least not in the manner that I do today.
So, as best you can, try to find joy and lessons in the struggle. You will need and want them later.
The “files” that we keep in our hearts and mind are so incredibly important. So, choose wisely.
Any time we face challenge or struggle, we all go back and draw from past life experiences in order solve or survive the day.
Obviously, you want the best resources upon which to draw. That is why I encourage you with Today’s Mindset focus.
Love who you have.
Forgive those who have hurt you.
Remember particular moments of happy.
When you do, there is gratefulness all around. And, releasing past hurts—for no other reason than they cannot be ‘undone’ is a great way to free yourself of future hurts.
Finally, keep an active file of positive mental markers that you can go back to and draw from when you are down or discouraged.
This difference will be noticeable and your future will thank you for it.
There are many tools and resources we can draw upon when committing to growing and changing our lives.
None, however are as important as our self-image, confidence, and belief.
I know first-hand that it is not always the one with the best marketing or with the best looks. No, the victory usually goes to the one who believes in their dream most.
You see, the road to success is lined with the worn out efforts and dreams of those who were not fully committed to the plan.
All too often we say we want to achieve something, but fail to back it up with a realistic plan that we believe in. And when adversity hits, we are left flat-footed and are paralyzed with doubt.
That is why I highly recommend that you work on your self-image and self-care.
If nothing else, the adversity that I have experienced in my life, now assures me that I am capable of doing SO MUCH MORE than I ever thought possible.
You are incredibly strong. I think you just needed someone to remind you of that.
Although it seems impossible, this Mindset for Today is spot on. It is all too easy to get caught up in circumstances that may not go the way we want them to.
But do not fear. Our response has a huge part in determining how things turn out.
It may feel like life or the world is against you. But the good news is to know that the outcome is directly related to how you respond to the situation, much more so than just the situation itself.
That is not to say that if we just believe something to be true that we can change the things we face. However, we can absolutely alter the path and severity of all challenges we face.
That is why, when staring down a challenge, I now remind myself that my response is most important.
I simply pause, take a breath, and ask myself, “What is the worst possible thing that can happen?”
Surprisingly, the answer to that question is usually far less dangerous than my imagination had made it out to be.
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